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I am almost 19 and have a 10 month old child, and was just wondering what everybodies take on young parents were? Alot of people think if you have child under the age of 20 you must a "yob" or a "chav". I am very proud to be a father and am very proud of my partner as I think we are both fantastic parents :)
 
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My mum was 16 when she got pregnant and 17 when she had me... it doesn't matter what age you are ( obv 16+ ) as long as you take care on him/her properly
 
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I'm 20 and I can't imagine having a kid, it would change my life so much it would be insane.

One of my mates has just turned 21 and has a kid about 6 months old. To be honest, when he told us that his bird was preganant I thought he was mad, but he has taken on more work to provide for his family and he has done a really good job.

The one thing I can't stand is when young people have kids when neither of the parents work and they just live off the state. Only have kids if you are in work and can afford them.
 
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It depends on your situation really. If you are in a good financial state and have a full time job preferably one that you know you won't get laid off/made redundant. And also if both parents are willing to take responsibility. Alot to give up. I'd love to settle down and have a child but i'm only 20 and have my life to live still. Although i'm in a relationship with someone who does have a kid :S Nothing wrong with young parents if they are responsible enough though.
 
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my brother is 17 and he have a 6 months son it dont matter what matter is that you take care of him ;)

btw i share bedroom with the baby :(
 
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Nothing wrong with being a young parent per se, but it's just that the likelihood of being a bad parent multiplies exponentially, I think. For whatever reason (financial difficulty, unstable relationship, lack of acknowledgement of the magnitude of looking after a human being until it's too late), young parents generally find it tougher and I think (personal opinion) that there's probably a greater likelihood of them being a bad parent (however you want to measure that).

As I said earlier, there's nothing wrong at all with being a young parent, so long as you're a good one. Congratulations on your child, and good luck for the future. I'm sure you're a great dad.
 
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yeah congrats btw, I'm sure you can be a great dad. But if you make him a leeds fan then you are a horrible horrible parent :p
 
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yeah congrats btw, I'm sure you can be a great dad. But if you make him a leeds fan then you are a horrible horrible parent :p
Haha, well hopefully he will be a rugby league lad like myself, footy is my second sport really. And just to mention to other posts, me and my partner are pretty secure financially, I've been working at Pure Gym for the past 10 months, which payed quite well, and now have got a job with council gym Bodyline, so I should get looked after more now I'm in with the council. My partner looks after our lad so she obviously doesn't work, we get a little help from the benefits but who doesn't?
 
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I think that if they are truly ready, then it's all good. The only thing that bothers me is 13/14 year olds having kids because of one night. That kind of parent is a bother.

Jamie, to be honest, you're not really a "young parent", but I definitely think you'll be able to keep your kid on the straight and narrow.
 
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I thought this was a football manager forum rather than a is it ok to have kids at this age forum. Take this onto a mother and father forum please.

I'm sure Football Manager games has nothing to do with this!!
 
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I thought this was a football manager forum rather than a is it ok to have kids at this age forum. Take this onto a mother and father forum please.

I'm sure Football Manager games has nothing to do with this!!
This is the general chat section? I thought we could talk about anything not related to FM in here? Or am I mistaken?
 
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I thought this was a football manager forum rather than a is it ok to have kids at this age forum. Take this onto a mother and father forum please.

I'm sure Football Manager games has nothing to do with this!!
It's in the General Chat subsection... kn*bh**d...


I don't really fancy young parents at all, all but if you want to puncture your young adult life with a baby it's fine. I won't undermine the care a young parent can bring but it's just that it will deplete your social life and leisure activities heartily at that age when you should be autonomous and exploring life or continue your schooling to get a better career/job
 
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I thought this was a football manager forum rather than a is it ok to have kids at this age forum. Take this onto a mother and father forum please.

I'm sure Football Manager games has nothing to do with this!!
Oh who urinated on your cornflakes? ;) Its in general chat ffs.

It doesn't matter what age you have children. Providing for them, and creating structure and stability is the most important thing for them. Showing kids love helps them turn into well rounded adults, and you are capable of that at any age.
 
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Firstly congratulations.

I will be 20 in a month or so and I just couldn't imagine having a child at this age. Would change my life completely. Funnily enough my GF's mate is over at the moment, she is 20 and has a 2 year old son and if I am being honest, ****** me off :p Doesn't stop crying. Sure I will love to have kids in the future but not just yet.

Don't think age has anything to do with how good a parent you are, just they are more likely not ready to deal with it. I am sure you both are great parents.
 
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As said above, the chances of being a bad parent are increased, in my opinion, if you're a young parent. This isn't to say every young parent is a bad one because that simply wouldn't be true however the difference in financial situations, mental situations etc surely have an impact on the parenting.

Congratulations on the child, sure you'll be a good parent. Looks like you've got the motivation to get out and work so which is presumably fuelled by wanting to earn a living for the little one and your partner.

I thought this was a football manager forum rather than a is it ok to have kids at this age forum. Take this onto a mother and father forum please.

I'm sure Football Manager games has nothing to do with this!!
Might want to check the section before posting eh?
 
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This is the general chat section? I thought we could talk about anything not related to FM in here? Or am I mistaken?
No you are not mistaken mate, you are correct to place it in this place :)
 
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I thought this was a football manager forum rather than a is it ok to have kids at this age forum. Take this onto a mother and father forum please.

I'm sure Football Manager games has nothing to do with this!!
And it's also in the general chat section. If you don't like the thread, don't read/comment in it.

This is the general chat section? I thought we could talk about anything not related to FM in here? Or am I mistaken?
No that's absolutely fine mate. Really interesting topic actually :)
 
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Make sure he supports Leicester :p. Lets take bet's on if he will play for England.
 
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My mam had me (first child) just after turning 19, far too young in my opinion and made life unnecessarily hard. Luckily she was still able to go to university several years later and get her life back on track. In my opinion you shouldn't have kids until you're financially stable and will be able to care for them properly and either return to work or have a working partner to support the family. Although you also don't want to have children too late. Late twenties to mid thirties sounds about right to me.

EDIT: Judging by the below I have to doubt whether the OP is mature enough... (from FA Coaching Course Level 1 thread)
I started it...was very good whilst I was there, I got booted off though for persistant back-chat, doing what I want etc.
 
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I believe you need to be married and financially secure. 30 is the right age!
 
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