I have a crush on a soccer player

[Kris]

Because it's the general chat forum? Anyways, sometimes strangers give better advice than people who know you since they're the only ones who can give an unbiased opinion.

I disagree with the bit about stringing her along, if your girlfriend wants to marry you and you know it won't happen that's one thing, but that probably isn't the situation. From what it sounds like, you're both kids who have been together a long time and that's that.



As I said before, there's nothing wrong with having a little somethin' on the side. Americans are very possessive of each other in relationships and cheating is really frowned upon, but in most other countries in the world it's pretty much OK as long as the other person doesn't find out. Be careful that your girlfriend doesn't find out so that it doesn't ruin things for the both of you, but remember, what she doesn't know can't hurt her.

I've talked to older guys that really regret not getting to play the field when they were in their prime because they were tied up in serious relationships and felt like they couldn't cheat. If I were you I wouldn't make that mistake, life is short and you only live once, and you have plenty of time before you're married. TBH I would strongly recommend getting married in your mid 20's, especially if you just got out of college. Enjoy your youth as much as you can while you have it.

Sleeping around doesn't guarantee happiness. If you want to **** about then do it, don't sulk in a relationship at the same time though.

Oh and cheating on someone is horrid no matter what nation you are from. To say that it's accepted is moronic.

'See no evil, hear no evil' is a ****** coward's way through life.

 

[Sid]

Bob Kelso always says...



Why are you bringing your personal **** to a football forum which consists of a bunch of high school kids that are more concerned with FIFA Ultimate Team or who pwned who on Black Op’s.

This is more of a question for your close friends or even your girlfriend, communication is awesome. Have you tried talking to her about your relationship and where it’s going? Might be the place to start, instead of creating threads on here? Your eyes are wondering so something is wrong, but maybe it can be fixed?

Don’t string her along, it’s not fair. Decide where your head is at and either fight or flight. Is the grass really going to be that much greener on the other side? Don’t be a ****, sort out your current relationship before anything else.

I will end this awesome agony aunt post with one of my favourite quotes.

Sigh, it's Black Ops not Black Op's.

 

[Joel`]

Because it's the general chat forum? Anyways, sometimes strangers give better advice than people who know you since they're the only ones who can give an unbiased opinion.

I disagree with the bit about stringing her along, if your girlfriend wants to marry you and you know it won't happen that's one thing, but that probably isn't the situation. From what it sounds like, you're both kids who have been together a long time and that's that.



As I said before, there's nothing wrong with having a little somethin' on the side. Americans are very possessive of each other in relationships and cheating is really frowned upon, but in most other countries in the world it's pretty much OK as long as the other person doesn't find out. Be careful that your girlfriend doesn't find out so that it doesn't ruin things for the both of you, but remember, what she doesn't know can't hurt her.

I've talked to older guys that really regret not getting to play the field when they were in their prime because they were tied up in serious relationships and felt like they couldn't cheat. If I were you I wouldn't make that mistake, life is short and you only live once, and you have plenty of time before you're married. TBH I would strongly recommend getting married in your mid 20's, especially if you just got out of college. Enjoy your youth as much as you can while you have it.

Surely the bolded bit isn't just unique to other nations? Or do you have special police in America who'll come slap the law down on you if you cheat? And what a silly view of the world. So it's okay for you to be happy even though you completely hurt someone else? How selfish can you actually be. And coming from the man who supports socialism so everyone is able to live an equal happy life.

 

[belz]

Surely the bolded bit isn't just unique to other nations? Or do you have special police in America who'll come slap the law down on you if you cheat? And what a silly view of the world. So it's okay for you to be happy even though you completely hurt someone else? How selfish can you actually be. And coming from the man who supports socialism so everyone is able to live an equal happy life.

I'm not an affair supporter, but, in all honesty, you never know what the person who you are with may be capable of doing, as much as you know her/him. Yeah, 'don't get in a relationship if you don't trust the other half', that's awesome in theory, but it doesn't work 100% that way.

Sure as **** there are lotsa' fish in the sea.. but so there are sharks.

Edit: why bring politics to this? Trying to start an argument? Totally unnecessary.

 

[Joel`]

I'm not an affair supporter, but, in all honesty, you never know what the person who you are with may be capable of doing, as much as you know her/him. Yeah, 'don't get in a relationship if you don't trust the other half', that's awesome in theory, but it doesn't work 100% that way.

Sure as **** there are lotsa' fish in the sea.. but so there are sharks.

Edit: why bring politics to this? Trying to start an argument? Totally unnecessary.

It's not a theory. Why are bothering with a relationship if you don't trust the other half? Silly argument. Either way it was advocating hurting someone else in order to fulfil your own happiness. Isn't that a fantastic theory instead?

And politics is irrelevant. It proves hypocrisy and inconsistency with the person arguing. If you prove that then it weakens their argument considerably. Not starting an argument at all, Curtis is smart enough to not get sidetracked by a small side swipe.

 

[Mads2506]

Sleeping behind someones back is horrible no matter if you're young or not. Doesn't matter what country you're from, period. Treat others like you want to be treated.

 

[belz]

It's not a theory. Why are bothering with a relationship if you don't trust the other half? Silly argument. Either way it was advocating hurting someone else in order to fulfil your own happiness. Isn't that a fantastic theory instead?

I rather hurt than be hurt, period.

 

[GodCubed]

I rather hurt than be hurt, period.

Really? 'Cause frankly, I'm a tough cookie, I can take rather a lot. I'd be a lot more torn up if I hurt someone else than if they hurt me, because meh, at the end of the day I can just stop caring about what they say to me, whereas I can never stop caring about what I do to them.

 

[Sid]

Really? 'Cause frankly, I'm a tough cookie, I can take rather a lot. I'd be a lot more torn up if I hurt someone else than if they hurt me, because meh, at the end of the day I can just stop caring about what they say to me, whereas I can never stop caring about what I do to them.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, alright tough guy.



Jks (K)

 

[Joel`]

I rather hurt than be hurt, period.

So you'd rather hurt under the assumption that you'll be hurt. Major trust issues, huh?

Also, ever think to consider the possibility some of us are actually nice human beings that wouldn't feel great knowing they're hurting someone else.

 

[ajt09]

Gotta say being cheated on is the most painful experience I've ever been through-even though it's happened more than once. You trust them, and then you see them snogging someone else in front of you when you've been with them for a couple of years-it's agony. I've never done it to anybody else-it's just incredibly wrong. You cheat, you don't deserve a dam thing. You deserve to be alone and miserable, until ways are changed. What I'll never understand is though, why do people stay with other people when they've caught them cheating? Amazes sometimes. One of the foundations of a relationship is trust. You break that trust, and it's like ripping away the foundations of a house-it'll just collapse and destroy everything you had.

 

[Mads2506]

Gotta say being cheated on is the most painful experience I've ever been through-even though it's happened more than once. You trust them, and then you see them snogging someone else in front of you when you've been with them for a couple of years-it's agony. I've never done it to anybody else-it's just incredibly wrong. You cheat, you don't deserve a dam thing. You deserve to be alone and miserable, until ways are changed. What I'll never understand is though, why do people stay with other people when they've caught them cheating? Amazes sometimes. One of the foundations of a relationship is trust. You break that trust, and it's like ripping away the foundations of a house-it'll just collapse and destroy everything you had.

I guess some people just hope they can build the house back up and continue with their lives as it was before. Back when they loved the other person and was happy. It's hard, but you gotta move on, and some people just don't want to, so they stay.

 

[ajt09]

I guess some people just hope they can build the house back up and continue with their lives as it was before. Back when they loved the other person and was happy. It's hard, but you gotta move on, and some people just don't want to, so they stay.

Oh I've moved on-that was a while back now lol. Got a family now, got engaged...everythings cush. But if it did happen again though, I would walk and I've talked to her about that. Perfectly happy now.

 

[belz]

Lol @ nice human beings that wouldn't feel great knowing they're hurting someone else.

What do you want, a trophy? Shouldn't that be standard? I never said I like to cheat, nor that I have cheated or that it is good to cheat. I actually started my post by saying "I'm not an affair supporter". But you, typical FM-Basers, had to take some things I said too literally, and dismiss other things, making it hard to build a constructive debate/argument.

You lot could try to/show that you understood what I said, but using irony is much better, ain't it? More likeys on the posts and stuff, I get it.

 

[Dunc]

Serious thread is serious.

Where's all the 'Turn gay' and 'play deep in the hole' talk gone?

 

[Mads2506]

Serious thread is serious.

Where's all the 'Turn gay' and 'play deep in the hole' talk gone?

This tend to happen when you start talking about feelings on anonymous (or sort of) forums

A strange development this thread has had.

 

[Joel`]

Lol @ nice human beings that wouldn't feel great knowing they're hurting someone else.

What do you want, a trophy? Shouldn't that be standard? I never said I like to cheat, nor that I have cheated or that it is good to cheat. I actually started my post by saying "I'm not an affair supporter". But you, typical FM-Basers, had to take some things I said too literally, and dismiss other things, making it hard to build a constructive debate/argument.

You lot could try to/show that you understood what I said, but using irony is much better, ain't it? More likeys on the posts and stuff, I get it.

Of course it should be standard, "I'd rather hurt than be hurt". Breaks the standard, and thus you get picked up on it.

Because you can't say "I'm not an affair supporter", and then expect that to negate everything else you said.

I love Jews, hate their **** greedy ways though.

NOT RACIST CUZ I SAID I LOVE THEM.

I understood what you said just fine, thanks.

 

[Vanjagl]

Some of you guys need to get a life. Urgent!

 

[Mads2506]

Some of you guys need to get a life. Urgent!

Weren't you the one who told him to rape her?

 

[belz]

Of course it should be standard, "I'd rather hurt than be hurt". Breaks the standard, and thus you get picked up on it.

Because you can't say "I'm not an affair supporter", and then expect that to negate everything else you said.

I love Jews, hate their **** greedy ways though.

NOT RACIST CUZ I SAID I LOVE THEM.

I understood what you said just fine, thanks.

Joel, you urgently need to get of your pedestal. Plus, you are an arrogant little ******.

Hope you understand. Yw